You know something isn't quite right. You want to trust your instincts, but you want to believe that your partner, spouse, boyfriend, fiance would never do anything to hurt you. You want to give him the benefit of the doubt. But, that's a big but, there are too many signs, red flags, signals that something is wrong.
Below is a list of possible signs of cheating, infidelity and unfaithfulness. One or two may be normal, but many signs signal something is amiss. If you see the signs, don't just walk you need to run!
1. He stops complimenting you, even when you go out of your way to look gorgeous.
2. You walk around in sexy lingerie or naked and he doesn't notice.
3. He stops calling and texting you throughout the day the way he used to.
4. Something at work has "come up" and he has to leave for work early or stay late (and this happens regularly now.)
5. There is a spare change of clothes in his car (for no apparent reason.)
6. In his car are items that aren't necessities such as: a blanket, cologne, deoderant, a toothbrush.
7. His cell phone is now kept face down.
8. Electronic items are now password protected and he doesn't want to give you the password. If he gives you the password he hovers over you while you look. He then changes the password when you aren't looking.
9. He details his car regularly. This hides any evidence from you or the other woman that may have been left behind in the car (a hair, fingerprint, perfume smell, broken nail, love note.)
10. He starts picking on you or pointing out your flaws. He may even overtly point out flaws in strangers that you know you have (this is a passive approach to put downs.)
11. You catch him lying. If he'll lie about little things he'll lie about big things.
12. He buys new clothes and doesn't wear them when with you. He now likes to go out all dressed up when he used to be comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt.
13. More and more frequently he goes out with the "guys".
14. Date nights have become non- existent and when you do go out you are the one who has to plan everything.
15. Now he wants to save money and cut back on household expenses. This could be because he is spending money on someone else and is feeling the financial strain.
16. He has started a new hobby. When you ask where the inspiration for the hobby came from he replies with a none specific answer such as, just because or I just wanted to. The idea came from some place. It could be that the other woman has this hobby.
17. He now appreciates a new style of music.
18. His change in clothing styles have changed. He went from wearing suits to a biker, bad boy look. Or preppy to punk.
19. His suggestions now include you trying out new styles of clothes to wear. His sudden interest in you wearing yoga pants or tall sexy boots (not together of course) could come from the other woman's clothing style. You dressing like her reminds him of her.
20. Excuses are made so he can get out of the house, even for 5 minutes, so he can call or text her. Maybe he offers to run to the store to buy milk. Maybe he goes outside to "smoke" more than he usually does.
21. He takes his phone everywhere even to the bathroom, the garage, to do yard work.
22. He's learned new sex moves or has improved at sex over all.
23. It is no longer a priority to satisfy you in bed. It's all about him and it's perfunctory at best.
24. Everything you do irritates him.
25. You are encouraged, by him, to spend more time with your friends or go visit family out of town,
26. If he travels for work he leaves more often than you know is necessary.
27. Physical contact in general is gone. Hand holding, hugs or cuddling is non-existent or are initiated by you. After sex he rolls onto his side of the bed instead of spooning.
28. You discover a secret facebook or other social network account. When you ask him about it, he gets mad and denies it. After all, if he denies it he thinks you'll believe him.
29. You discover a secret email account. There is never, ever a reason for anyone to have a secret account. It means only one thing. A big secret is being kept from you.
30. He no longer asks or cares about your day, what you did with your day or how you feel.
31. Mutually engaged conversations are virtually non-existent. You have become the couple at the dinner table who don't speak. He is most likely wishing he were somewhere else.
32. When you question him about his behavior, attitude, lack of attention, he has an excuse, every time.
33. Desk drawers, filing cabinets or anything that can lock is now locked.
34. He starts laundering his clothes more frequently.
35. You notice unusual stains or spills on his under clothes. He says it's just food.
36. He no longer wants to talk about future plans. That includes not wanting to plan this years vacation.
37. In the app store you notice downloads that aren't on your phone such as hangouts, path or restaurant finders.
38. He kisses differently. What few kisses you get are now pecks not passionate.
39. While helping your friend search through a dating site you run across a profile that sounds like a perfect description of your man (with no image of course.)
40. He no longer opens his bank statements (if you have separate accounts) or his credit card statements. Or perhaps he has switched them all to paperless so you are unable to see where his money goes.
41. If you do share a bank account you notice multiple withdrawals of cash with no explanation of where the money went.
42. The screen changes on his tech device when you walk into the room.
43. He is very moody. Ups and downs that you can't make any connection to. When you ask he responds with a general statement such as "a bad day at work" or "a good day at work."
44. When showing interest in something he's working on he calls you clingy.
45. His credit card debt has gone through the roof and there is nothing new at the house to show for it.
46. He no longer does his household chores, leaving everything for you to do.
47. If you have children, he complains about them. He nit picks on everything they do.
48. He is unaware of where you are. In other words, he doesn't notice when you are at home or when you've left.
49. It no longer bothers him who you spend your time with or how long you're gone.
50. He tries to quit all of his bad habits (smoking, drinking, chewing, nail biting etc..)
51. On top of that he is now trying to improve himself. He pays more attention to his hygiene, starts exercising, eats better, decreases his foul language, you get the gist.
52. He is trying to learn to cook. Perhaps he now makes a new dish for dinner and when you ask where he got the recipe he "made it up", but he doesn't usually cook.
53. His friends or co-workers are noticeably uncomfortable around you.
54. He brings you flowers or a gift for "no reason." This is most likely a guilt gift.
55. You are getting wrong number calls to your phone or hang ups. Maybe the other woman got a hold of your number.
56. You manage to go through the pictures on his phone and there are pics of people you don't know. Worse yet, the only pictures of you and he together look like you are just friends. He's deleted any kissing or intimate pics of the 2 of you.
57. On his phone you discover an inordinate amount of contacts, some are duplicated. You call a few and they are no longer valid. He has unnecessary numbers on his phone to better conceal the ones he wants kept secret.
58. You find notes in his wallet, desk, car, backpack. suitcase or briefcase (from the obvious to the odd.)
59. You bring up the topic of cheating and he gets angry and or turns the tables and accuses you. Getting angry is a defense mechanism. If he isn't doing anything wrong he would most likely comfort you.
60. You bring up the topic of being unfaithful and he suggests a temporary break or that maybe "you" need some space.
If he is cheating the chances of him ever being man enough to admit it are infinitesimally small.
How are you going to handle your knowledge? Do you demand respect for yourself and leave or tell him he needs therapy for being a dumbass? What will you do?
Always remember you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.
Friday, December 18, 2015
Monday, December 14, 2015
Slow and tried but true, 2 ways to catch a cheater.
Trying to catch someone cheating can be time consuming. Do you trust your gut instinct or do you want proof? If you find evidence of an affair do you talk to him or just leave him? What if he lies to you and it's believable? What if he keeps cheating? How much time are you willing to invest to discover the truth?
For me, I love the thrill. How many different ways can I discover secrets? Who is more clever? How many different books can I write using all the information I gather? The answer to that by the way is three in the works so far. The least I can do is make some money out of this whole ordeal. That will piss him off once he learns what I did. Good.
However, I don't recommend that to anyone. I, on the other hand, know that I should've left years ago when I first started to wonder why his personality changed. Also, I am a covert passive aggressive woman. He is a covert passive aggressive male. In other words, together we are a screwed up, dangerous couple.
Let's get back to you. Are you going to trust your gut (which is really your subconscious having noticed clues) or are you going to look for proof? If so, how much time are you going to allow yourself to look? It can be time consuming.
Looking online for proof of cheating, lying, infidelity, unfaithfulness, what ever you want to label it, can suck up your energy and time.
Dating sites. If he's at least half smart he won't post an image of himself which would make it a lot easier. Other wise, type in a description of what you are looking for (his age range, physical description, an approximate mile radius and qualities you think he'll use to describe himself.) Now you have the tedious task of gleaning through all the profiles. If you run across your partner's profile you'll know. Be sure to search through slutty dating sites (adultfriendfinder, adulthookups, naughtydating for example) as well as, the regular dating sites such as match, plenty of fish and zoosk. You never know, you may run across an image of your man's junk.
Searching dating sites is the most time consuming method I know to find clues, but when you find it you can set up a fake profile to start "flirting" and maybe get a chance to bust him face to face.
Follow them. This is very old school but it works. You may want to ask a trusted friend to help with this. Figure out when he meets up with the mystery woman. Is it on his way home from work? When he's at "the gym"? When he's with his "friends"? Instead of going to church? Once you know when then you can make plans to follow him and see where he goes. Or if you have the money simply put a gps tracker on his car.
Time and patience are key with these methods.
Remember you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.
For me, I love the thrill. How many different ways can I discover secrets? Who is more clever? How many different books can I write using all the information I gather? The answer to that by the way is three in the works so far. The least I can do is make some money out of this whole ordeal. That will piss him off once he learns what I did. Good.
However, I don't recommend that to anyone. I, on the other hand, know that I should've left years ago when I first started to wonder why his personality changed. Also, I am a covert passive aggressive woman. He is a covert passive aggressive male. In other words, together we are a screwed up, dangerous couple.
Let's get back to you. Are you going to trust your gut (which is really your subconscious having noticed clues) or are you going to look for proof? If so, how much time are you going to allow yourself to look? It can be time consuming.
Looking online for proof of cheating, lying, infidelity, unfaithfulness, what ever you want to label it, can suck up your energy and time.
Dating sites. If he's at least half smart he won't post an image of himself which would make it a lot easier. Other wise, type in a description of what you are looking for (his age range, physical description, an approximate mile radius and qualities you think he'll use to describe himself.) Now you have the tedious task of gleaning through all the profiles. If you run across your partner's profile you'll know. Be sure to search through slutty dating sites (adultfriendfinder, adulthookups, naughtydating for example) as well as, the regular dating sites such as match, plenty of fish and zoosk. You never know, you may run across an image of your man's junk.
Searching dating sites is the most time consuming method I know to find clues, but when you find it you can set up a fake profile to start "flirting" and maybe get a chance to bust him face to face.
Follow them. This is very old school but it works. You may want to ask a trusted friend to help with this. Figure out when he meets up with the mystery woman. Is it on his way home from work? When he's at "the gym"? When he's with his "friends"? Instead of going to church? Once you know when then you can make plans to follow him and see where he goes. Or if you have the money simply put a gps tracker on his car.
Time and patience are key with these methods.
Remember you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.
Thursday, December 10, 2015
Electronic Breadcrumbs
Cheaters will always leave a clue. There will always be some way of following their electronic trail that leads to deception.
These ways I listed below are easy to use or do. Most require no money, some very little. The best part is that they do not require you to be tech savvy.
My top 10 ways to catch them cheating using technology as your ally.
1. Their cellphone. They won't always remember to delete a call or text. Check the secret phone list. Look for apps they may have forgotten to close. If you have a shared account try accessing your account online to see which numbers they called and received. By the way, blocked numbers to and from will appear on the account like any other. So if they *67 someone you'll still see the number. You can also set it up to see texts on your bill. In case you're wondering, if someone on your contact list ever *67 calls you that will show up (look at bottom of recent calls or under their contact number). If you hook their phone up to your laptop you can upload their photos, including ones that have been deleted in the last 30 days. Go under pictures to albums and you may find deleted pictures there. They are stored for 30 days unless they delete the deleted file. As you can see, a wealth of information to be found on the phone and that's just the easy stuff on an iphone. If he has an android the sim card can be removed to upload pictures that way. Did you know that you can respond to a text he receives on his phone while it is passcode protected? And it's simple.
2. Their computer. The easy way is to check the history. Obviously people who are good with computers can check deleted history and hack into accounts to find information, but I don't know how. Check tabs that may have been left open or bookmarks that may have been saved accidentally.
3. Their ipad (tablet, but that's not as rewarding). Check for apps that have not been closed, history, apps that will open when you click on the icon (such as facetime-you can see numbers they've called unless they've deleted them) or maps (for possible directions on where they went), slide the notification bar down from the top for just that, notifications. Some people will put their email address in allowing them faster access to their mail without a password needed (this is how I found out about a secret facebook account).
4. Icloud. If you 2 share an account you can go into your cloud account and see saved images and contact info on each device that is linked to that account.
5. Apps. Again this works if you 2 share an account. Look up purchased and then put -not on this phone. It will give you a list of everything that has been downloaded. If it's not on your phone than it is on his. Check for anything suspicious, such as social apps like hangouts or path. There are also picture apps that will allow you to secretly send pictures. There are a ton of special apps out there that are specifically for hiding texts, calls, numbers and pictures so familiarize yourself with them.
6. Spy pens (or other audio recording device.) These can be purchased easily online, but be sure to read the description. What to look for? No beeps and no flashing lights while working. Buy one with a long battery life and good data storage (mine will record for 17 hours). It looks and works like a regular ballpoint pen but it records audio. Once you've recorded you can listen directly from the pen itself with ear buds or you can upload the recording to your computer to save. Flashdrives, calculators, watches, outlet plates and clocks, what do they have in common? They are just a few of the covert listening devices you can buy. I chose pen because we have a ton of them in our office so it blends right in. When I'm ready I simply slip it in my purse and go "grocery shopping" and listen to the recording.
7. Spyware (on their phone or ipad). There are many services out there to buy that you can install on a phone. You need access to the phone to install it. Prices vary but the services are roughly the same. Turn it on and you can locate where the phone is, know what numbers were called and received, text messages sent and received, photos taken, emails sent and received and passwords typed. This is exactly why you should never let anyone use your phone. It's also illegal to put it on someone's phone with out their consent, so I'm not telling you to do this, just letting you know it's out there.
8. Keylogger. This is software that can be downloaded on a computer. It works like spyware. It logs every keystorke, revealing passwords, IM's and emails. It also can be set to take screen shots at specified time intervals which is especially useful if someone is on skype or some other type of live video chatting. There are many brands for this software. It's usually offered in the context of keeping on eye on your children while they are online, but we all know that it gets used for spying on spouses.
9. Spy camera. Like the audio device it comes in many forms, from looking like a mini camera to the covert hidden in an everyday item camera. These range in prices and can be purchased easily online. You have 2 options: the camera that transmits a signal or the camera that doesn't. There are radio frequency detectors that can pick up a signal on a camera that transmits, so choose wisely. Know what you need.
10. Iretrieve stick. This device will retrieve lots of data from an iphone or ipad even if it has been deleted. You need to install software on your computer (as of right now it is not available for linux), plug the drive into your computer along with the iphone or ipad and you can retrieve texts, emails, phone calls and images. It won't work if the phone is pass code protected and it doesn't work on androids.
There are other other tech ways to catch them cheating, but I'll save those for a future posts.
Good luck.
Remember, you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.
These ways I listed below are easy to use or do. Most require no money, some very little. The best part is that they do not require you to be tech savvy.
My top 10 ways to catch them cheating using technology as your ally.
1. Their cellphone. They won't always remember to delete a call or text. Check the secret phone list. Look for apps they may have forgotten to close. If you have a shared account try accessing your account online to see which numbers they called and received. By the way, blocked numbers to and from will appear on the account like any other. So if they *67 someone you'll still see the number. You can also set it up to see texts on your bill. In case you're wondering, if someone on your contact list ever *67 calls you that will show up (look at bottom of recent calls or under their contact number). If you hook their phone up to your laptop you can upload their photos, including ones that have been deleted in the last 30 days. Go under pictures to albums and you may find deleted pictures there. They are stored for 30 days unless they delete the deleted file. As you can see, a wealth of information to be found on the phone and that's just the easy stuff on an iphone. If he has an android the sim card can be removed to upload pictures that way. Did you know that you can respond to a text he receives on his phone while it is passcode protected? And it's simple.
2. Their computer. The easy way is to check the history. Obviously people who are good with computers can check deleted history and hack into accounts to find information, but I don't know how. Check tabs that may have been left open or bookmarks that may have been saved accidentally.
3. Their ipad (tablet, but that's not as rewarding). Check for apps that have not been closed, history, apps that will open when you click on the icon (such as facetime-you can see numbers they've called unless they've deleted them) or maps (for possible directions on where they went), slide the notification bar down from the top for just that, notifications. Some people will put their email address in allowing them faster access to their mail without a password needed (this is how I found out about a secret facebook account).
4. Icloud. If you 2 share an account you can go into your cloud account and see saved images and contact info on each device that is linked to that account.
5. Apps. Again this works if you 2 share an account. Look up purchased and then put -not on this phone. It will give you a list of everything that has been downloaded. If it's not on your phone than it is on his. Check for anything suspicious, such as social apps like hangouts or path. There are also picture apps that will allow you to secretly send pictures. There are a ton of special apps out there that are specifically for hiding texts, calls, numbers and pictures so familiarize yourself with them.
6. Spy pens (or other audio recording device.) These can be purchased easily online, but be sure to read the description. What to look for? No beeps and no flashing lights while working. Buy one with a long battery life and good data storage (mine will record for 17 hours). It looks and works like a regular ballpoint pen but it records audio. Once you've recorded you can listen directly from the pen itself with ear buds or you can upload the recording to your computer to save. Flashdrives, calculators, watches, outlet plates and clocks, what do they have in common? They are just a few of the covert listening devices you can buy. I chose pen because we have a ton of them in our office so it blends right in. When I'm ready I simply slip it in my purse and go "grocery shopping" and listen to the recording.
7. Spyware (on their phone or ipad). There are many services out there to buy that you can install on a phone. You need access to the phone to install it. Prices vary but the services are roughly the same. Turn it on and you can locate where the phone is, know what numbers were called and received, text messages sent and received, photos taken, emails sent and received and passwords typed. This is exactly why you should never let anyone use your phone. It's also illegal to put it on someone's phone with out their consent, so I'm not telling you to do this, just letting you know it's out there.
8. Keylogger. This is software that can be downloaded on a computer. It works like spyware. It logs every keystorke, revealing passwords, IM's and emails. It also can be set to take screen shots at specified time intervals which is especially useful if someone is on skype or some other type of live video chatting. There are many brands for this software. It's usually offered in the context of keeping on eye on your children while they are online, but we all know that it gets used for spying on spouses.
9. Spy camera. Like the audio device it comes in many forms, from looking like a mini camera to the covert hidden in an everyday item camera. These range in prices and can be purchased easily online. You have 2 options: the camera that transmits a signal or the camera that doesn't. There are radio frequency detectors that can pick up a signal on a camera that transmits, so choose wisely. Know what you need.
10. Iretrieve stick. This device will retrieve lots of data from an iphone or ipad even if it has been deleted. You need to install software on your computer (as of right now it is not available for linux), plug the drive into your computer along with the iphone or ipad and you can retrieve texts, emails, phone calls and images. It won't work if the phone is pass code protected and it doesn't work on androids.
There are other other tech ways to catch them cheating, but I'll save those for a future posts.
Good luck.
Remember, you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.
Wednesday, December 9, 2015
One Puzzle Piece at a Time
Good morning.
This is the beginning of my Good Girl's Guide to Catching a Cheater.
I was the type of person who was trusting. Naively I thought when my sweetheart said he loved me that it meant he loved only me. I was wrong. When the possibility of his unfaithfulness was first brought to my attention I didn't believe it. There had never been a doubt in my mind that he was true to me, so I never questioned anything he said or did. Now I feel like a betrayed fool. This was the beginning of me learning how and where to start looking for clues. Now I pass the tidbits of knowledge on to anyone else who needs it.
I'm going to include pretty basic searches for those who are newly into the searching process.
Start with his personal effects: wallet, desk, dresser, office (at home), car (under the seat and in the spare tire compartment especially), luggage, backpacks, etc.
What other spaces do you have at home? A basement, garage, attic?
My thoughts on cheaters. If you think your spouse, partner, boyfriend, fiance might be cheating I do recommend talking to them. It should be done in a non-judgemental, non-threatening way so that they won't get defensive (which is a red flag of a cheater.) Personally, I gathered information first because once they know that you are on to them they will cover their tracks better. It's easier to find information when they think you aren't looking.
Let me share with you what I found as I started my way down the rabbit hole. In his wallet I found a note with Mobistealth and a number on it. I googled it and found that it is spyware for a cellphone or ipad. He had my cellphone bugged. Lightbulb click! I started to remember over the years him mentioning stuff out of the blue that he shouldn't have none about (friends calling me, movies I would see with friends). He had been spying on me for years! Who the hell does that? Of course, I should've broken up with him then, but I didn't.
Cellphone spyware. It is detectable, regardless of what the ads say. When it is being used your phone will "behave" oddly. It will turn on by itself (actually someone else can turn your phone on for you.) The screen might flicker, apps may close out on their own. The battery life gets used up quickly. Essentially it doesn't work the way it should. To remove it you must do a full factory reset, but even then be cautious. Or better yet, get a new phone and don't let anyone ever have access to it.
In his luggage I found a picture booth photo of him with another woman. The picture didn't show them kissing or doing anything inappropriate, but if you know how to read body language and facial expressions it can show you so much more. Earlier that month he had shown me similar pictures of him with business associates, so I assumed that the woman in the photo was someone he knows professionally. Why hide a picture if you have nothing to hide? One piece of the puzzle.
In his backpack I found my email address along with my password. He had been checking my email. Why on earth would he need to do this? I don't believe in double standards so, if he thinks he has the right to go through my email than maybe I should go through his. I don't know his password.
My point in sharing all this is that you never know what you may run across.
If you do search his belongings and I'm not telling you that you should, I'm merely saying that there may be clues close by, maybe try to hide the fact that you are looking. For example, when I look I am very careful to put items back exactly the way I found them.
Good luck, stay strong and remember you deserve respect, love and faithfulness.
RLF
This is the beginning of my Good Girl's Guide to Catching a Cheater.
I was the type of person who was trusting. Naively I thought when my sweetheart said he loved me that it meant he loved only me. I was wrong. When the possibility of his unfaithfulness was first brought to my attention I didn't believe it. There had never been a doubt in my mind that he was true to me, so I never questioned anything he said or did. Now I feel like a betrayed fool. This was the beginning of me learning how and where to start looking for clues. Now I pass the tidbits of knowledge on to anyone else who needs it.
I'm going to include pretty basic searches for those who are newly into the searching process.
Start with his personal effects: wallet, desk, dresser, office (at home), car (under the seat and in the spare tire compartment especially), luggage, backpacks, etc.
What other spaces do you have at home? A basement, garage, attic?
My thoughts on cheaters. If you think your spouse, partner, boyfriend, fiance might be cheating I do recommend talking to them. It should be done in a non-judgemental, non-threatening way so that they won't get defensive (which is a red flag of a cheater.) Personally, I gathered information first because once they know that you are on to them they will cover their tracks better. It's easier to find information when they think you aren't looking.
Let me share with you what I found as I started my way down the rabbit hole. In his wallet I found a note with Mobistealth and a number on it. I googled it and found that it is spyware for a cellphone or ipad. He had my cellphone bugged. Lightbulb click! I started to remember over the years him mentioning stuff out of the blue that he shouldn't have none about (friends calling me, movies I would see with friends). He had been spying on me for years! Who the hell does that? Of course, I should've broken up with him then, but I didn't.
Cellphone spyware. It is detectable, regardless of what the ads say. When it is being used your phone will "behave" oddly. It will turn on by itself (actually someone else can turn your phone on for you.) The screen might flicker, apps may close out on their own. The battery life gets used up quickly. Essentially it doesn't work the way it should. To remove it you must do a full factory reset, but even then be cautious. Or better yet, get a new phone and don't let anyone ever have access to it.
In his luggage I found a picture booth photo of him with another woman. The picture didn't show them kissing or doing anything inappropriate, but if you know how to read body language and facial expressions it can show you so much more. Earlier that month he had shown me similar pictures of him with business associates, so I assumed that the woman in the photo was someone he knows professionally. Why hide a picture if you have nothing to hide? One piece of the puzzle.
In his backpack I found my email address along with my password. He had been checking my email. Why on earth would he need to do this? I don't believe in double standards so, if he thinks he has the right to go through my email than maybe I should go through his. I don't know his password.
My point in sharing all this is that you never know what you may run across.
If you do search his belongings and I'm not telling you that you should, I'm merely saying that there may be clues close by, maybe try to hide the fact that you are looking. For example, when I look I am very careful to put items back exactly the way I found them.
Good luck, stay strong and remember you deserve respect, love and faithfulness.
RLF
Tuesday, December 8, 2015
Revenge, Love, Forgive
Revenge-the first thing you crave when you discover the betrayal.
Love-you must love yourself more than ever to make it through this relationship or the end of it.
Forgive-what you must do in order to move on so that it doesn't (he doesn't) take up any more of your precious, valuable life.
Future posts on this blog will include ideas and suggestions for all three. I will include signs that your partner may be cheating, spy tips, how to bring up the topic of cheating, tips for reading body language, tips on how to spot a liar. my favorite spy gadgets and anything else that might be helpful to you in case you've found yourself questioning your partner.
My man cheated on me and let me tell you, I scoured the internet, talked to others who'd been betrayed plus came up with a few new ideas of my own on ways to get revenge. It felt good just thinking about it. In the end though, I want to be, I am the better person (or so I want people to believe.)
Always remember that you are deserving of love, truth, respect and faithfulness.
Let the games begin.
All of this is happening to me right now. And I mean now.
The more I search for clues the more I find out about him and think he must be really twisted. No one will ever know (except me) unless I find a way to confront him where he can't deny it, like he has before.
I'll be out of here soon enough I have no doubt. Why stay with him you ask? I want to catch him in the act so I won't be the only one who knows that he is a lying, cheating, two timing man who needs serious mental help.
The only reason I share that with you is so that you'll know the tidbits of being sneaky and spying are things I've done. Sad to say but I now enjoy the thrill of playing a spy in my own house of love. My pounding heart as I look through his car while he's in the shower, only 3 minutes. My nail breaking off in the car while I frantically look for clues and now I have to come up with an excuse as to why my nail is in the car. Shit. I run back to the front door, quietly open it just a crack and slip inside. Hoping he's still in the shower. The water is running, good. I quietly step into the bathroom and get back to putting my makeup on. The water stops. My heart is still pounding. Breath. I take an upward stroke of the mascara wand as he steps out of the shower. I smile big. Hi babe. And breath.
That probably sounds awful to anyone who hasn't been cheated on, but for those of us living with an unfaithful spouse who also lies, it becomes part of the game. How to catch a cheater?
The more I search for clues the more I find out about him and think he must be really twisted. No one will ever know (except me) unless I find a way to confront him where he can't deny it, like he has before.
I'll be out of here soon enough I have no doubt. Why stay with him you ask? I want to catch him in the act so I won't be the only one who knows that he is a lying, cheating, two timing man who needs serious mental help.
The only reason I share that with you is so that you'll know the tidbits of being sneaky and spying are things I've done. Sad to say but I now enjoy the thrill of playing a spy in my own house of love. My pounding heart as I look through his car while he's in the shower, only 3 minutes. My nail breaking off in the car while I frantically look for clues and now I have to come up with an excuse as to why my nail is in the car. Shit. I run back to the front door, quietly open it just a crack and slip inside. Hoping he's still in the shower. The water is running, good. I quietly step into the bathroom and get back to putting my makeup on. The water stops. My heart is still pounding. Breath. I take an upward stroke of the mascara wand as he steps out of the shower. I smile big. Hi babe. And breath.
That probably sounds awful to anyone who hasn't been cheated on, but for those of us living with an unfaithful spouse who also lies, it becomes part of the game. How to catch a cheater?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)