Revenge as a pressure relief valve for anger.

Once you learn that you've been cheated on, lied to and mislead about your relationship anger and hatred may build inside.

What do you do with that powerful emotion boiling inside you?

Do you get revenge or forgive?

At some point you will have to forgive in order to move on with your life and be happy, but if you're not there yet and want to get revenge first, you have options.

Below are some ideas I've heard that other people have done to get revenge.  I am in no way telling you to get revenge in order to release that anger that is trapped inside you; what you do is entirely your choice.

Speaks for itself.

Spray paint has been used to write on a garage door of his house and or the mistresses house.
I'm sure in lots of other creative ways too.

There's the ol' clean the toilet with his toothbrush bit.  It's an oldy but goody.

How about placing poop in the tank of the toilet?  This sounds more like something a man would do, but who knows.

How about an ad in the newspaper or on craigslist?  A friend of mine put a classified ad in the local paper.  "Husband for sale cheap, comes with mistress."  That was the gist of it, but she elaborated.








There is always the home printed flyer with the cheaters name and picture on it, along with what they did wrong and post it up around the neighborhood and town.

My favorite story that I heard was a wife who sold her husbands car while he was traveling for "work".  What a surprise to come home to after vacationing with one's mistress?!  That takes a lot of balls.








Interested in something more covert?  How about a facebook account in their name describing what type of person they are, pictures and all.  Although, at some point fb will ask you to take it down, but until then.......

This is a bullseye on any man's ego!

We don't all have the luxury of this kind of money, but talk about priceless.

  

Have fun at a sporting event.











Another more covert method is to put their name on a cheaters website.  There are many and they are free.

That concludes the revenge list for today, but stay tuned, there will be more.  Revenge is wicked and so am I.  In the future I will share some of my wicked ways with you.

If you have tried any or heard of any interesting, entertaining ways of getting revenge for a broken heart please share.  I'm always looking out for the next great revenge story.

In a future post I will list positive, healing ways of getting revenge.

Until then, remember you are deserving of romance, love and faithfulness.

Slow and tried but true, 2 ways to catch a cheater.

Trying to catch someone cheating can be time consuming.  Do you trust your gut instinct or do you want proof?  If you find evidence of an affair do you talk to him or just leave him?  What if he lies to you and it's believable?  What if he keeps cheating?  How much time are you willing to invest to discover the truth?

For me, I love the thrill.  How many different ways can I discover secrets?  Who is more clever?  How many different books can I write using all the information I gather?  The answer to that by the way is three in the works so far.  The least I can do is make some money out of this whole ordeal.  That will piss him off once he learns what I did.  Good.

However, I don't recommend that to anyone.  I, on the other hand, know that I should've left years ago when I first started to wonder why his personality changed. Also, I am a covert passive aggressive woman.  He is a covert passive aggressive male.  In other words, together we are a screwed up, dangerous couple.

Let's get back to you.  Are you going to trust your gut (which is really your subconscious having noticed clues) or are you going to look for proof?  If so, how much time are you going to allow yourself to look?  It can be time consuming.

Looking online for proof of cheating, lying, infidelity, unfaithfulness, what ever you want to label it, can suck up your energy and time.

Dating sites.  If he's at least half smart he won't post an image of himself which would make it a lot easier.  Other wise, type in a description of what you are looking for (his age range, physical description, an approximate mile radius and qualities you think he'll use to describe himself.)  Now you have the tedious task of gleaning through all the profiles.  If you run across your partner's profile you'll know.  Be sure to search through slutty dating sites (adultfriendfinder, adulthookups, naughtydating for example) as well as, the regular dating sites such as match, plenty of fish and zoosk.  You never know, you may run across an image of your man's junk.

Searching dating sites is the most time consuming method I know to find clues, but when you find it you can set up a fake profile to start "flirting" and maybe get a chance to bust him face to face.

Follow them.  This is very old school but it works.  You may want to ask a trusted friend to help with this.  Figure out when he meets up with the mystery woman.  Is it on his way home from work?  When he's at "the gym"?  When he's with his "friends"?  Instead of going to church?  Once you know when then you can make plans to follow him and see where he goes.  Or if you have the money simply put a gps tracker on his car.

Time and patience are key with these methods.

Remember you are deserving of respect, love and faithfulness.