Serial cheaters are the ones who will continue to cheat every chance they get.
They love the thrill.
They think they deserve the adoration and attention.
They don't think that they will get caught. In the back of their mind they think they can talk their way out of it if they do get caught.
They think they are smarter than you.
It is your job to protect yourself from them. In order to do that I've put together a list of qualities that serial cheaters have in common.
1. They are narcissists. They think only of themselves and what they want. It doesn't matter who they hurt to get it.
2. They are self-entitled. They think they deserve anything and everything their heart or loins desire. They look to other people to pump their ego; They don't know how to do it themselves.
3. They are more likely to have money. They need money to shower women with gifts. They are not capable of giving true love, so gifts are their way of saying "I care about you." He may say the words I love you, but they mean something different to him than you.
4. They are more likely to have jobs with power and control. An executive for example.
5. They are image oriented. They are shallow people. It's all about looks. They want to be with attractive women who shower them with words of praise, there by stroking their egos. Their own looks and image to others is of high importance. They present themselves well, but you have to be able to look past the facade.
6. They have double standards. Rules apply to everyone else to "be good", but not to them. Since they are narcissists they think they can rewrite the rules.
7. They are experts at justification. In their heads they are able to justify any action or motive to suit their needs and give them the excuse they need to cheat. They do not think of themselves as liars, cheaters, deceitful or unfaithful. They can justify infidelity with ease.
8. They take no accountability. If you notice that they place accountability of anything (past relationship failures, problems in the workplace, family issues for example) on other people instead of owning their part of the problem than you bet that they do that with cheating too.
9. They are insecure or paranoid. This may be hard to spot at first because they are masters of deception. Initially they come across as confidant, but that is a mask. Inside they are insecure about your faithfulness because they know how easy it is to cheat. Once they decide they want to keep you around for awhile you may start to notice the jealousy signs of insecurity and paranoia. Beware, this is never a good sign.
10. They have cheated before. They may or may not tell you if they have previously been unfaithful, but if they do realize there is a distinct possibility they will again. And you should know that if they cheated with you, they absolutely will cheat on you. Don't lie to yourself and think they won't.
11. They are handsome. Good looks goes along way to forgiveness and masking deception. People who are attractive can get away with a lot more than ugly counterparts. This is not to say that all good looking people are cheaters because that's not true.
12. They are charming. They pride themselves on being charming and know how to use that to their advantage.
13. They know how to read people. They are good at reading people and learning what matters to that person. They use that knowledge to lie and lure their target with empty promises. They are predators.
14. They likely had parents who were unfaithful. Seeing infidelity as a child imprints on them that it is normal behavior.
15. They are skilled liars. If you ever hear them lie or say that they lied, than you can bet that they lie to you too. If they'll lie about the little things, than they'll lie about anything.
Take these for what they are, little pieces of a larger, thoughtless, emotional void that make up a serial cheater.
No one wants to be in a relationship with a cheater, so learn to spot the signs of serial cheaters before you get too far involved.
Always remember that you deserve better.
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